Heather is a Christian Stay at home homeschooling mom of three, married to a firefighter, and a writer. She is founder of www.CSAHM.com among other websites for Christian mothers, and women. Heather is passionate about sharing God’s word in a practical and loving way.
Forgiving the Bully
By Heather Bixler
I don’t remember the names I was called but I remember how they made me feel. I never wanted to go to school. It wasn’t a safe place especially when the teacher sided with the bully, she was the teacher’s “pet.” Sometimes I felt bullied by the teacher too.
I often sat in my room crying at only 8 years old. Dealing with a pain that dug down so deep. I had lost all my security in life, I was floundering in a world so cruel, no one there to throw me back into the water so I could breath again.
Those few years of dealing with a bully scarred me for life. Later on when I dealt with any kind of rejection I literally wanted to die. Suicide often crossed my mind at the age as young as 11 years old.
Often we see news stories about the precious teens, and children even younger than that, who take their own life because they are bullied. Often people ask “why?”
I know why, I truly know that pain they are going through. The only One that can bring you back to life is Jesus.
When you are young it’s difficult to understand the magnitude of what you are going through when you are being bullied. I know all I ever wanted back then was for someone to stand up for me, and for someone to protect me. I know I lost a lot of hope in people.
But now I look back on the years I was bullied and those who have rejected me and I know in my heart forgiveness needs to reign in my heart. If we are ever going to find healing from rejection and experience acceptance then we need to forgive those who have hurt us. We need to forgive the bully.
The anger and the hurt we carry will never go away as long as we carry that bitterness in our heart. We will find those who accept us, including Jesus, but never be able to embrace that acceptance until we forgive and accept our bully.
See our bully was flawed to. Filled with their own bitterness and anger, truly they were only pouring out what they had living inside their heart. We have received their bitterness and anger, and have allowed it to live in our heart too long.
We will never feel accepted until we have forgiven those who have rejected us.
In this four week mini Bible Study you will discover the power of acceptance in your life. The acceptance we all have from God, and why it’s important to accept our self, flaws and all.
Rejection is a powerful force in our life and our Christian walk. It effects our confidence in God and His call on our life. But little do we know the power we have to let go of the control it has on us.
Rejection is also an attitude that results in an action that looks a lot like putting space between you and someone who has hurt you.
I pray this book will bless you in a way where you will release idols and embrace acceptance in your life rather than the lie of rejection.
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